May
12
2009

A Moral Dilemma

For the past month or so, I have been uncharacteristically un-peevable, hence the stalling of Meccanized.  Fear not, dear readers, the happy spell has passed. Today, I experienced extreme rudeness that really ground my gears.

I was sitting in my usual seat on the bus home (by the front door) when a middle-aged woman with a cane approached the bus.  Before she even got on the first step (and before anyone sitting had the chance to get up), the woman rudely and angrily looked right at me and yelled “Jesus, you people are so selfish.  Is someone going to get up?”  Now, I am usually the first person to give up my seat (and I very much relish the moral superiority that goes along with that), but today I froze.  My reasons:

– There were 10 other people sitting nearby that could have gotten up.

– I had several bags with me, so standing and holding them all would have been challenging.  The other 10 people nearby had less in hand.

– This woman’s approach was really rude (and that rudeness was for some reason immediately directed at me), and I was partly stunned and partly unwilling to validate that behavior.

Was it worth the Karma points to let her win, stand up and deal with holding my heavy bags and not being able to reach the stability bar (ironically, being the bigger person)?  Would I go to hell if I stayed the course, kept my butt in the seat and waited for someone else to crack under the pressure?

I’m curious to know what you would have done.  I decided that no one has the right to talk to me that way and that someone else could give up their seat.  For about 10 seconds.  Where no one else got up.  At which point my moral strength (or pressure weakness) took over and I yielded my seat to the woman.   She didn’t say thank you and, actually, rolled her eyes at me as I stood there with all my bags.  I fumed silently and mentally composed this blog post to Meccanize her.

Maybe this is what I get for needing to sit near the front of the bus.

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  • http://www.twitter.com/bret_clement Bret Clement

    I guess the moral of the story is you shouldn't carry lots of bags on public transportation unless you are tall enough to reach the stability bar. Thanks for the insight!

  • http://www.twitter.com/bret_clement Bret Clement

    I guess the moral of the story is you shouldn't carry lots of bags on public transportation unless you are tall enough to reach the stability bar. Thanks for the insight!

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