Sep
20
2009

First Impressions: Who Needs ‘Em?

In the last few weeks, I feel like I’ve made more inaccurate first impressions than I ever have before.  Normally, I would lump them in the “can’t be everything to everyone all of the time” bucket and forget about them, but the stream of them has reaffirmed my belief in the importance of second chances.

I, like everyone else, have off moments.  I also have a long list of things I wish I had done, not done or done differently, some significant enough to evoke a twitchy, squirmy, grimace-filled gesture when thoughts of them fly through my head.  I probably tend to dwell on these more than the average person, but usually they become lessons or funny stories pretty quickly.

As a direct result of my propensity for awkward, I make it a point to shelve my opinions of other people until I get a crack at a second impression.  (This obviously doesn’t apply if the person is clearly a nutjob based on the first encounter.  “Nutjobs” include anyone who threatens me or makes awkward comments on a date like “Yeah, my ex-girlfriend accused me of physical assault, but I’m totally over that bitch.”)

I’ve had off first meetings with a lot of people.  One or both of us seemed boorish, rude, slutty, obnoxious, boring, shallow, whiny, etc.  About 50% of those impressions ended up being totally accurate in my opinion.  The other 50% and I now laugh about those awkward initial encounters right before we have some sappy moment where we talk about how happy we are that we didn’t let iffy first impressions become non-starters for our relationships.

Do I care that the woman at the laundromat thinks I’m selfish for inadvertently taking her dryer?  No.  But, in general, I do care about presenting myself in a positive light that at least in most ways matches my own self-perception.  Of course, the accuracy of that self-perception is pretty subjective, but that is a subject for anther post.

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  • nickmatzke

    How's this for first impressions?http://www.abadcaseofthedates.com/2009/09/naked……from my new favorite blog…

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    First impressions are nonsense if you ask me. Most people pretend to be something other than what they really are the first time you meet them.

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